How do I stop wondering?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-26-2003
How do I stop wondering?
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 11:47am
First off, let me say, my DH is not and never has had an affair.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:14pm

Do you understand that your current approach is already causing damage to your relationship?


You are treating your husband as though he is Guilty Until Proven Innocent, while trying to find or fabricate anything to make him wrong.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:41pm
Yes, I understand it's damaging.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:43pm
As I mentioned in my 1st post - focus on the positives of your relationship and the value he brings to your life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 3:01pm

You probably have been feeling out of control since you quit work and are with your children. The children

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 3:27pm
Since this is a new experience for both of you - why not just discuss it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 10:11am
Girlfriend you need to get a life out of the house and feel important too. I don't mean with men.Go out with girlfriends one a month stay out late see a movie have dinner and drinks...relax...The mommy in you is overworked and the woman in you body is getting lost. Also once a month you and your mate should go on a date. No talking about children only one another.GOOD LUCK
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:17pm

Welcome to the board ausavannah,


You've gotten some really good advice.


::But like I said, I don't think he's having an actual affair, I just think they're becoming really good friends.