How do i take our relationship further?

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Registered: 11-12-2002
How do i take our relationship further?
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Wed, 11-16-2011 - 9:34pm

I have been dating this guy for two months now.....we are both newly divorced...we have been on probably 8 dates. The problem is i feel like we have hit a brick wall, i really really like him but it is just not going anywhere. What do i need to do to take that next step to hopfully building a serious relationship? Thanks!

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 1:16am

Thanks Geo.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 12:30am

Are you two having sex?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 8:59pm

Happy anniversary, Blue!

Just want to point out that a person who has been dating for two months has been dating for about eight weeks.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 3:25pm

Hi Amanda, I certainly understand the desire for exclusivity.

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Registered: 11-12-2002
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 1:20pm

thanks for the advice......i guess what i am wanting is exculisivey. don't know why i am in a hurry i just really like him and i just want to know he feels the same way.....guess i will just have to brake down and just ask him

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 9:02am

Do you really think that after EIGHT dates, you know him well enough to decide you want a "serious relationship" with him?

Are you so desperate to move this forward into "serious dating" that you would do so without getting to know the important parts of his personality that you cannot possibly know after only two months?

I would think about changing your perspective... You are newly divorced and I understand that many people after a divorce want an "instant relationship" again because you don't love the idea of having to start over again and go through the "just edating" stage. But you will actually be saving yourself a lot of wasted time if you get to know him better before you broach the idea of getting serious.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 2:12am

Amanda, the bit Fissatore wrote about things developing naturally rings true with me.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 1:27am

I agree with Musiclover!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 10:52pm

Why are you trying to rush into a new relationship so soon after being divorced?