How do you decide whether to work on your marriage or end it?
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|Mon, 07-28-2014 - 11:01am|
I have been married for 4 years. Initially we were very happy but for the last year or so I have been increasingly unhappy, though he seemed to think things were just fine. The main problems were/are lack of intimacy (husband's) and his general lack of drive to do anything outside work (we both work Monday-Friday 9-5 so we should have plenty of time to do things and neither of us has a particularly high pressure job). Every night after work and every weekend are "rest time" for him - the only thing he will do is go to the gym for an hour and he rarely even has a conversation with me. If I'm lucky he might cook something or do a few dishes but he basically spends every minute he is not at work or the gym sitting on the sofa watching tv.
We have been working on our issues for a couple of months and they have improved slightly. Unfortunately I have already developed feelings of resentment towards him and I'm just not sure if these will go away.
He is generally a nice guy, works hard when at work, popular etc etc but I just don't know that our relationship is enough for me for the rest of my life... I can't decide if our marriage was a mistake or if it just needs work. I'm not even sure I love him anymore, though sometimes I feel like I do.
I don't know if when I look back later in life I will wish I divorced him now, or if I do leave him now it will be something I will regret for the rest of my life.