how do you know if you should end it?

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Registered: 01-02-2007
how do you know if you should end it?
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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 10:32am
I've been dating this guy for 3 years and living with him for 2. Since this past September, I've noticed I have been getting upset about us every couple of weeks. I love him so much but he's not ready for what I'm ready for. Ex: marriage, house bigger commitments. I'm willing to wait til he's ready but how long do I wait or should I just move on.

So my ex and I dated for 3 years lived together for 2. We have been broken up for 1.5 years. It was a mutual brk up. I moved 2 hours away about a year ago and often go back home and visit. We did keep in touch for the first year then

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 11:18am

Hi:)
I would ask him why he isn't ready...(or do you already know why?)

Let him know that you seriously want to know where you both stand in these matters and what his goals are. If he has goals to meet before marriage, house, etc. and is actively working toward meeting those goals within a specified time frame that would be different from a very pat answer of something like "well, maybe in the future....", you know?

When you both talk about this, what are his responses, concerns, etc?