How do you mend a Broken heart?

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Registered: 10-31-2008
How do you mend a Broken heart?
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 3:57pm
I have recently split up from my partner... we lived together, we were having problems, we had a break.... i was under the impression we were going to think about how we could improve things, work things out.... only to be confronted when we met again with confusion, a brickwall and no negotiation to try and overcome our problems. I still feel so upset....he said he didn't know what he wanted... I haven't been able to see him or contact him since.... I wrote a letter and the response was an angry txt msg disregarding most of what I said.... a few msgs went back and forth till I decided I couldn't take anymore. I am heart broken, I still love this person to bits despite what has happened yet I've lost him completely and feel as tho we could work things out if only he would give me the chance but that chance has gone for he shut down on me can any one offer any advice to overcome a broken heart?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 4:13pm

Welcome to the board goddess_sandy77,


You can follow the link below in my siggy to the Breaking Up is Hard to Do board. Here's some other links for you as well:


How to Get Over Your Breakup - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21185.1



Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1


Zen of Doing Nothing - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21173.1





iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 6:41pm
If he doesnt know what he wants...that means he doesnt want a relationship with you .. at least bad enough to make things work.
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Registered: 10-31-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 6:49pm
Yeah I have but alot of my friends are connected to him so I've kept a low profile because I'm constantly reminded of what he is up to.... I've been throwing myself into my work (setting up my own business) and trying to come to terms with the fact he doesn't want me. I have been going out but I will start going out more again soon I think x
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 9:20pm

Yes, creating a new circle of friends will be very important to you recovering from this breakup.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 1:23am
Don't mean to thread jack, but what happened sugarbaby_gal?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 5:33am

Hi there,

Thanks for your msg, I'm sorry to hear that your having a tough time of it too. Some things in life never make sense.... this guy who pursued you for years then blew it all away obviously doesn't know what he had or appreciated you. Of course I don't know what went on but can only assume that he was very cruel to make you feel the way you did and do. I truly believe what goes around comes around and it will.... but I also believe people do deserve second chances, we are only human, we all make mistakes. If he learns and actually changes then he would be worth a second chance but from what you said it sounds like he won't or never will so its good to let him make his own way of heading for comeuppance, cos he will. Good luck xxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 11:59pm

Yes, he was cruel. There was no reason to treat me the way he did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 12:00am
Last we posted to each other he was not being forthcoming about some things and not being 100% upfront, if you remember. My posts in the thread say it all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 2:20am

Oh, and ...he also thinks he knows best...when it comes to me and he most certainly does not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 6:27am

Hi,

From what you say your right he does not deserve a second chance and I guess I am still clinging onto the fact that one day I will meet my x again because I thought he was the one and feel as though he is the only one I will ever love. But how could it be real love when so much pain has been caused? .... I don't know, it still feels so raw. I admire your strength and hope I will be able to look at things differently in time xx

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