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how to end this relationship
| Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:26pm |
i'm 24 yr old. i got married last year march and my hubby is 7 yrs older than me.
for the past 4 months i've been going out with this guy whom i met in my workplace.
i knew he's interested in me, and i've tried hard to avoid him at first.
but he's just so persistent, and so i accepted his offer to go out together.
since my hubby is working shift hours, sometimes he would need to work on weekend, and then i will go out with this guy during weekend.
when my hubby asked, i'd tell him i'm going out with other friends.
for the past 4 months i've been going out with this guy whom i met in my workplace.
i knew he's interested in me, and i've tried hard to avoid him at first.
but he's just so persistent, and so i accepted his offer to go out together.
since my hubby is working shift hours, sometimes he would need to work on weekend, and then i will go out with this guy during weekend.
when my hubby asked, i'd tell him i'm going out with other friends.
i really mean to befriend with this guy, but in the end it has developed in some kind of intimate relationship that i couldnt get out of.
i guess it's just out of my weakness and unwillingness to be apart of this guy who has given me "something lost" in my marriage life.
i'm planning to end this relationship on november, after coming back from a holiday trip i've planned with this guy.
do u think that it's right for me to end it up this way?
or should i just not turn up on the due date, leaving him to absorb my message, that this relationship shouldn't has flourished as it's now?
please help me, cause i really feel guilty to my hubby

Having an affair is almost like an addiction, you can't stop calling him, you can't stop thinking about him, and you can't stop being unfaithful.
You need to end the relationship today for you and your husband's sake. Or tell your husband your marriage is over and go off with the new guy.
If you decide that you want to stay with your hubby, then end the relationship now. Yes the guy will be hurt, but your husband's feelings are more important than the man you are having a fling with.
Even if your husband does not know about the affair and you decide not to confess, you should still suggest counseling... I am sure that he has noticed a change in your behavior, perhaps you have been acting more distance.
Or you should get counseling on your own to find out why you cheated and make sure it doesn't happen again... because a lot of people end one affair and then a couple of months later or a year later, find a new lover. It becomes a cycle and you need it to end.
what exactly was missing in your marriage that you went off with the new guy?
i should be the one to be blamed
I don't know if what I'm saying is making sense, but it doesn't really make sense what you are doing. Just think about it. I'm pretty sure your husband know's that somethings up. Do you want him to hurt more? You should either just leave him or start being faithful.