How to get a present from the heart?
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| Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:46am |
OK, so me and my guy have been talking about presents. I want him to get me something that he comes up with. I don't even want any item in particular, just some stupid little thing that comes from his heart.
I know 10 things he could get me, and he wants me to make a list and then he'll pick something, but I want HIM to think of what to get me.
I'm gonna be starting college next year and one of the things I thought would be really sweet from him would be a sweatshirt that said "college student" or something like that. Another thing is that to go to college I'm gonna be moving to where he lives, and so I thought maybe another sweet thing he could get me is just a guide of the city with some places marked with little comments like "I'd take you here to get the best hotdog in the city" or "Here we would go watch a movie and cuddle in the dark"...or you know, stuff like that. BUT I don't want to tell him to get me these things cause I want them to come from his heart. His ideas were like a a shirt or an mp3 player, but I really don't want that. I want something more meaningful and I've told him but he just can't decide and wants me to just give him a list. He's very sweet, thoughtful and sensitive, so I kinda thought he would think of something like what I want. But I guess that's not the case. lol.
So my question is, what do I do? Should I just tell him what I want, or let him get me some thing?
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I've posted additional info in message 4, 8 and 10.
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Edited 11/28/2007 12:53 pm ET by marianad2004
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To be honest, the things you want aren't things you can ask for.
I forgot to mention that this is not for Christmas. We just live in different places and we have a long distance relationship for now, (cause I'm moving next year) so that's why I'd just like a little gesture, just something to remind me of him, or something sweet from him. But not an actual present, you know? And of course I'm going to enjoy whatever he gets me.
This all came about cause I sent him something he asked me for, (kinda dirty lol) a few months ago and with that I sent him this stupid little Krusty figurine, (the clown from the simpsons, I'm a huge simpsons fan) so that he would look at it (instead of the other thing that he would have to keep hidden) and remind him of me.
He's got it on his night stand and he's told me that whenever he sees it he smiles cause he thinks of me.
So that's kinda what I want, just a little gesture. Not an actual present, and I've explained this to him but he just can't decide what to get me so he wants me to make a list of things I'd want. But like one of you said, these are things I can't really ask for.
OMG this made me laugh. This is
Welcome to the board marianad2004,
Not everyone shows love through 'gift giving' - you might want to read Five Love Langagues, by Gary Chapman and identify how he does express love to you.
First of all, I'm actually not 17, I'm 22 years old, but I'm from another country so just now I've gotten the chance to go to college over there.
Thanks for saying I sound like I'm 12, that was very nice of you.
Second of all, I don't want him to read my mind. I just gave those examples of the sweatshirt or the map as the kind of thing I'd like him to send me, but of course I know he's not gonna send me those exact things unless I told him.
Of course I'm gonna appreciate anything he gets me, that's not the point. I'm just saying that I don't want him to have to buy me a present, just a little gesture would be nice and it would mean more. I've even told him he doesn't even have to buy me anything, just a letter would be fine. But he insists in getting me something, yet he can't figure out what and I don't know what to tell him cause there's nothing I want. No particular items, just something to have that comes from him, that's all. Nothing more, nothing less.
Edited 11/28/2007 12:49 pm ET by marianad2004
Edited 11/28/2007 12:51 pm ET by marianad2004
Edited 11/28/2007 1:08 pm ET by marianad2004
'..But he insists in getting me something, yet he can't figure out what and I don't know what to tell him cause there's nothing I want'
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Ok.. what would
---You want sweet little unexpected special surpises - what about if he is just not that kind of a man? He needs to know exactly what and when? Rule N 1 of being in a r-ship with a man - do not try to make him into something that he is not!---
The thing is that he is that kind of guy, I've seen it. lol
But I don't know, it's hard to explain, I guess. It's not that I want something but I don't know what it is. I just want him to send me something. That's all. How is that so hard? I've always gotten presents or gestures for people without them telling me what they want. So what I'm asking for shouldn't be that ridiculuos.
And I understand that there are bigger problems here posted on the board, so maybe mine does sound a little silly. But it's not even a problem. I just wanted to see if I could figure out what to do with this, but it's not something I'm gonna cry about.
Edited 11/28/2007 1:07 pm ET by marianad2004
Edited 11/28/2007 1:14 pm ET by marianad2004
"I've always gotten presents or gestures for people without them telling me what they want. So what I'm asking for shouldn't be that ridiculuos."
Yeah but that is you, not everyone has that degree of creativity. My guy, for our first christmas, made me something really unique and great - it was wonderful of him - but he hasn't done it since and that's fine with me. People show affection and thoughtfulness in different ways, it shouldn't take a material gift.
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