How to help him feel comfortable sharing

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Registered: 06-08-2008
How to help him feel comfortable sharing
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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:43pm

Hi,


I just want to say that both my bf and I love each other very much, but apparently neither of us know

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 4:25am

Faithflwmn, I think you're making a mistake in thinking that you can encourage him to change. You're wanting him to communicate like a woman and it's just not what works for him (and most men).

Have you thought that he may not WANT to share problem solving? If what he does works for him, why would he change it? Many, many men like to solve their problems alone. It's just what they do. Generally speaking, girls share problems and solve together, but boys like to figure it out alone.

I understand that he has done it in the past because he had do. But one of the reasons that things would have worked with his ex would have been because they were two halves of a whole. He is a natural decision maker and she needed someone to make decisions.

Read the Mars and Venus books. It may help you understand the way guys process stuff.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 10:26am

All couples have issue that to be worked out in a relationship. Clearly, this is a pattern of his that goes deep, and it is troubling to you. In order for your relationship to work optimally, it will be best if he is willing to

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 7:07pm

If you both dont know much about give and take, maybe some counseling sessions would help.