How to I handle how I feel?
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How to I handle how I feel?
| Sat, 12-22-2007 - 2:17pm |
Hi everyone,
Please help. Am I justified to feel the way I do?
My dilemma, married eight years with two children.
1) She can't make love to me, per se, only her fantasies while with me.
Every time….I mean every time we've been intimate in our 8 year marriage (2x a week average), my DW asks about other girls I have been with to get her "O" or other AP fantasies to finish off.

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It has worked for me up tot this point because
Welcome to the board manlips77,
You are in a difficult position.
She said she would be willing to go to counseling. But what could possibly come from counseling? That she doesn't care? Does counseling really help people figure out this kind of stuff? Don't get me wrong, I am willing to give it a try with her, but I have lost total faith that she or I can change, we have done this our whole marriage. In fact the last time we had s*x, we made out and had excellent foreplay, and I was totally ready and she was not. She wasn't even wet. She loved being close to me though and felt satisfied and wanted to end it there. I asked why and said we always have it. She said she was afraid that if we went all the way that it would turn naughty and that she would feel bad and not close to me. Then she got
Welcome to the board manlips77,
What would happened if you didn't go along with talking about other people during sex? Have you tried that?
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I've done that. Two things end up happening, no s*x, or she just gives up and let's me finish. Real fun, not!
So, we're pretty much done having it. We've gone from a couple of times a week to once a month.
Ok. I can accept this. The other dilemma is the fact we're not communicating, and she seems to act like nothing is wrong. For once in my life, I have actually opened up to my wife about our problems on level I never have done before, and she actually told me she doesn't care. We both agree we need MC. So we'll certainly try this, but I just can't expect her to change who she is and vice-versa.
I guess this will be a defining year for us. I am willing to roll
I am always amazed that when we meet someone and decide to marry them we seem to ignore the issues at hand until after the wedding is over.
With all due respect, the s*x problem has been one aspect of
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