How to know if you should fight for your marriage or let it go
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|Sat, 04-28-2012 - 3:26pm|
Wow I haven't been on this site in a long time!
So I have been with my husband now for 17 years, we have 4 boys ages 5,6,11,13
Things have been tough this last year, he was injured at work and lost his job and financially things have sucked and his injuries limited him quite a bit for awhile. All is recovered now, he is out of town for 3 months re-training.
I haven't heard much from him since he's been gone and I asked if he'd like me to come up next weekend because all of the kids are going camping with grandparents and he's only a 5 hour drive away. he completely ignored the question, long story short I called him and we chatted for awhile. I asked him if everythings ok with us and he said I don't know! So I was kinda shocked so dug a bit deeper. End result he isn't happy and when I asked well do you WANT us to work it out, he said I don't know what I want. He is living the life right now, on his own, no kid stress or money or wife stress, hanging with the other guys every night, drinkin beer...is this a mid life crisis. I don't know if I should fight for him or let him go :(
I make him unhappy because I have accused him of being unfaithful, not even that really I have accused him of spending time with someone else...I don't know if this is true or not but he's always out and I don't know where he is. He lied one day saying he was going grocery shopping and 4 hours later came home with no groceries..he'd gone and gotten a tattoo. When I asked why would you lie about something so silly, he said I just need to do some things on my own, ok!
I'm just confused and very upset, I'm not the strongest person, I love this man with all my heart, I am very attracted to him, I am very grateful for things he does for us, he's funny, he's a great dad, I believe he has lost those feelings for me though :( what a hard thing to accept...any thoughts?