How to let go and forgive the past?

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Registered: 03-23-2009
How to let go and forgive the past?
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 4:35pm

It has been a while since I’ve visited this site, Im back again to seek some wise advice from everyone. I’m having some relationship troubles, thought I’d get an objective opinion.

My bf and I have been together for 3.5 years.

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Registered: 06-13-2011
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 5:18pm

Wow, I feel for you!

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 8:37pm

Once trust is broken it is hard to get back. It seems to me one of your biggest issue is you want to at least have plans to be married and you don't feel as though he is serious about being comitted to you. But one thing for sure having the same argument gets old and tried and if he wasn't serious about dating someone from the dating site he may be rethinking it now.

If you feel he won't do it again and trust him then let it go, but nagging and insecurity is a very unattractive trait. If you want to be married and after being with the guy going on 4 years

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 06-14-2011 - 12:40am

I love it.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 06-14-2011 - 9:21am

You have to either put an end to your current behaviors toward him, or break up with him. It's that simple. As the other person said, your relationship is not going to move forward under these circumstances. No proposal or anything of the kind is going to happen.

This is not to say that your BF is not at fault. It is 100% his fault that this situation has arisen. It may very well be that he has no intention of meeting anyone, but of course it was a complete breach of your trust for him to not only browse that site, but to set up a profile, etc.

If you can't see yourself totally moving on from what happened then end this now. Not everyone can move on from things like this. There is no rule that says you must forgive, or that you must leave, it's totally subjective.

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Registered: 06-22-2011
Sat, 06-25-2011 - 12:52pm

Hi......sorry to hear your story but I completely understand. Trust, one of the most important issues in