How Long Do I Wait for Marriage??

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2004
How Long Do I Wait for Marriage??
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:26pm
I am 26 and have been with my boyfriend for three years now. I was ready to become engaged after the first year, but he was not. And he's still not. Every time I bring up the topic he becomes defensive and irritated, even angry if he's in a sour mood. However, when I finally say, "Are we EVER going to get married???" He assures me passionately that we will, but just not yet. He has a million excuses why now is a bad time, from money to that "marriage is just an empty institution anyway" bull. How does a girl know if a man intends to marry her, or if she is just being strung along? Please advise me!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:25pm
He already told you that, in his opinion, "marriage is just an empty institution anyway." He TOLD you what he thinks, you just don't want to accept it. 3 years is long enough to know if you want to marry someone. He has made his decision. Now you have to make yours.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:35pm
If marriage is an 'empty institution', how is your being patient going to change his mind?