How much jail is too much???

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Registered: 01-15-2004
How much jail is too much???
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 1:15am

I need help! My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 yrs. He has been to jail at least 4-5 times in that tim, mostly for driving without a licence. He is 13yrs loder then me so we have different outlooks on thing in life anyways. He can be a really great guy, i know he loves me and will do anything for me and my 3 girls but Ifeel like sometimes he tries to act like my dad by telling me what to do.

He wants me to get rid of facebook because I have guys on there that I have known my whole life.He doesnt feel like I should have ANY guy on there and that I have no business ever speaking to a dude. Yes i have cheated on him so I know he doesnt trust me but he has stolen money from my and stolen my keys and drove and thats how he has always gotten locked up, he is their now!

I rely on him to support me and my kids right now cause I work part time and go to school fulltime online .He keeps telling me that we are gonna end up splitting up and I am gonna be stuck with nothing when he is the one who told me NOT to work. WE just fight so much and I dont know what to do anymoe! Any advice or ultimatums I cangive him? I already told him ifhe dinks again we are done!

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 4:56am

It's really not that difficult to stay out of jail. Any guy who finds himself repetitively landed there is a criminal and will only drag you down. And any guy who tries to control you and steals your money and your car is NOT a "really nice guy". Far from it. You need a major wake up call, this guy is a total LOSER and it's no wonder you've cheated on him - deep down, you must know how bad this guy is for you and so you're seeking out other potential partners.

Please find some other way to support yourself - as far as I can see, the only reason you stay with him is because you need his financial support. And he knows that. It's how he controls you. See if you can stay with a friend or family member until you can get back on your own two feet.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 10:57am

Seriously--do you have to question that this relationship is just horrible?

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 11:16am

The least of your problems is this guy's jail time.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 2:47pm

Hi Girley,

I first thought this was a joke, but you are seriously asking this question.

Once is one to many.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:03pm

I would NEVER EVER EVER date a guy who has gone to jail.

I just want to add it may be OK if a guy goes to jail because he was in a protest or anything.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:39pm
Depends on what he was protesting!

I think you know what I mean - DUIs, stealing, drugs, embezzlement, etc. Maybe I added one too many "EVERs."