How to reach??

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Registered: 06-17-2006
How to reach??
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:42am

My boyfriend of 17 months

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Registered: 05-08-2008
In reply to: ducky2006
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:10pm
I know...the male pride factor is huge.
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Registered: 06-17-2006
In reply to: ducky2006
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:30pm

Trust me this guy does more for others than anyone

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ducky2006
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:09pm

Respect his feelings and his pride. He has to work out his own financial situation and for many men this is tied to their ego and identity. He may not feel as if he is worthy of you if he is not financially stable, or at the very least he may not feel as if he is in a place where he can deal with a relationship.


What is more troubling is the fact that you see one another so seldom. In any healthy relationship, a couple are there for each other and see one another during good and hard times. The fact that there is no time for the two of you to be together doesn't allow the two of you to work together or to talk things over or to bond sufficiently. Ask yourself whether this is the kind of relationship you want and how long it can really continue this way? It's understandable that this situation would cause a great deal of upset and frustration, which will then be expressed in many ways. This is the issue that needs to be handled. If the two of you can't work out some kind of schedule where you have sufficient together time, then it may not be possible for the relationship to thrive.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 06-17-2006
In reply to: ducky2006
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 2:50pm

The infrequency of seeing each other has become