How to save my relationship?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
How to save my relationship?
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:46pm
I would love to get into tons and tons of detail, but I'm going to keep this as short and sweet as possible. My ex and I had been together for 3 years on and off, but on for the most part. We broke up twice over stupid petty things, and he always came back to me. In the beginning of this month we broke up again, got back together with the understanding that he needed his space. We had lived together for all 3 years of our relationship and I think that may have caused a few problems. Well some things happened with his family and him and I argued over it, and broke up for good. I told him that all connection between us would be broken because it is what he wanted. I also told him that I will always love him and I will always be here for him if he needs to talk. Before we dated we were best friends for a year so not having him in my life is hard... We hadn't talked for a few days and he called me this morning seeking advice on a job offer. We talked for a bit, then decided not to run up either of our cell phone bills and I offered to make him dinner tonight, which I am. I'm making dinner at my apartment and taking it over to his house to give him some help with things. Now I know better than to go over there and be like "I miss you I love you I want you back!" but I do miss him, I will always love him, and I do want him back in my life! I've always felt that he was the one for me, and while I haven't let the fact that we're broken up keep me down for more than a week or so, I haven't truly been happy without him.

I should clarify that when we broke up, I had mentioned the previous times when he had always come back to me, and he stated "Not this time. I want to move on with my life and I just want to be left alone" which is the reson that I had broken all contact with him. But now he calls me? I know he still loves and cares for me, and that was never a doubt in my mind. He's just having issues right now with a few things and I know he can't handle a relationship on top of all those things. On top of that, he has never had a chance to live his own life without someone else in it. Ever since high school he always had a girlfriend or his parents that he had to worry about and I know that plays a big part in this as well, because its another reason for this seperation.

How should I handle this? How can I slowly work at getting him back without coming out and saying it?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 5:23pm
Okay... never mind plans are cancelled and now I'm trying to fight back tears. I was so hoping to get to see him tonight... he called me up and sounded horrible! Said he was so tired he could barely stay awake and that when he got home he was going to go to bed. Didn't say anything about rescheduling for another night =( I really miss him...