How should I behave?

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Registered: 01-12-2009
How should I behave?
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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 12:29pm

Hello,

I've recently started talking to a guy. I like him so far and appears that he does to but there is one thing about him that bothers me a lot. He is a pharmacist and he loves his job. He likes to take care of all his patients.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 12:59pm

You "just started talking to him" but you're being really overbearing. He just wanted to text you to say good morning and you turned it into a gigantic deal. I don't see anything rude about saying "Not now, sorry too early to be on phone". You totally flew off the handle in a text message, acted INSANE, made promises "Never" to call or text in the morning, accuse him of being "mad" at you (I see no evidence

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:15pm

Ok, but the reason I'm saying is. I initally was responding to him only when he called or text. Then one fine day he says, why don't you call just because.

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:23pm

And yes, we are dating exclusively.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:30pm

None of this excuses the insane reaction from you.

How long have you been dating one another?

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:38pm

All I am saying is. He goes quiet two-three times a week coz of his patients. He gets lifeless.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 1:57pm

You are too uptight about him and his feelings. Let him feel what he feels and explain it to you if and when he is ready. Here's how I would have handeled things differently if I were you...

Guy: Good Morning

Girl: Good Morning :smileyhappy:

Guy: I have been up since 3 :smileysad:

Girl: What a party animal! Seriously though,

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:00pm
"Not now, sorry too early to be on phone."
You: "That's rude...."

If someone said that to be after I apologized and expressed my wish to not to talk about something and got your response, I would be mad at the minimum and would think twice about wanting to talk to you at all.

Mark
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:03pm

You still don't answer how long you have been dating, though you speak as though you know his personality well enough.

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:05pm

That's helpful! I guess, I will let him be. He's very talking guy. He is talking 90% of the time we talk. When all of a sudden he goes quiet it worries me. He's does this twice a week. I agree he is a pharmacist at a hospital but is this how it's gonna be all the time? Each time someone dies or something happens you'll go quiet on me?

But I see your point. I should let him have his feelings. After he did this for past month on going silent, i now realize that he should be left alone and assume it's his patients.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:10pm

Also, his quiet times would be a good time for you to do something for yourself. Think of it as a blessing... 'me time' without having to ask fot it :)

As to assuming what he is feeling, I wouldn't do that. Just keep an open mind until he expresses what is bothering him... it could be just about anything and you know what they say about ass-u-me (ing).

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