You had sex without a couple of pretty important prerequisites down (that's IF you want to eventually develop a lasting relationship with this guy): -knowing if he's dating other people -establishing a connection that was agreed upon verbally
What you're seeing is really common after having sex for the first time. Around this time, a guy who is interested in building a relationship with you will stick around and put MORE effort into communicating with you.
If he's not, well, this is where he will start to back away. Unfortunately it looks like that's happening here. He's coming up with excuses for being aloof and I know you're not really buying them. You can wait this out if you like and see if he reestablishes a sincere interest in you, but really this sounds like you two had chemistry and things led up to the point where he decided he didn't want any more.
People usually go from casual to serious pretty naturally with no forcing. It just happens when two people who already want it decide to talk about it and establish an official relationship.
I don't suggest an Email.
This guy simply is not in "relationship mode" with you yet, and if he ever will be or not remains to be seen but probably not. I'm doubting that a "where do we stand" conversation will go too far at this point, because he's already told you that you think too much. He doesn't exactly show the best boyfriend potential.
You had sex without a couple of pretty important prerequisites down (that's IF you want to eventually develop a lasting relationship with this guy):
-knowing if he's dating other people
-establishing a connection that was agreed upon verbally
What you're seeing is really common after having sex for the first time. Around this time, a guy who is interested in building a relationship with you will stick around and put MORE effort into communicating with you.
If he's not, well, this is where he will start to back away. Unfortunately it looks like that's happening here. He's coming up with excuses for being aloof and I know you're not really buying them. You can wait this out if you like and see if he reestablishes a sincere interest in you, but really this sounds like you two had chemistry and things led up to the point where he decided he didn't want any more.
People usually go from casual to serious pretty naturally with no forcing. It just happens when two people who already want it decide to talk about it and establish an official relationship.
I don't suggest an Email.
This guy simply is not in "relationship mode" with you yet, and if he ever will be or not remains to be seen but probably not. I'm doubting that a "where do we stand" conversation will go too far at this point, because he's already told you that you think too much. He doesn't exactly show the best boyfriend potential.