How to tell if friends are just friends?

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Registered: 04-08-2008
How to tell if friends are just friends?
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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 10:27am

I didn't know who else to talk to about this so I thought I would try this. I'm very confused on what's going on w/my bf and his new friend that's a woman. We split up for awhile and started to date other people but we stayed friends. He met this girl Monica on the net, she miss led him what she looked like & supposedly they are still friends but he talks about her all the time in what they have done in the past. My bf and I are back together since last Sunday and met this girl Monica on that Wednesday. She seem pretty cool but he totally ignored me that night and they made a lot of eye contact and light flirting. I saw her again on that follow Saturday and got on the subject of my bf (commitment). She was like what did I mean and told her that him and I are together and she had an attitude the rest of the night towards me. He ignored me some of the night cuz she wouldn't bowl w/us so she sat in the back away from us. He was back there a lot talking to her since she found out about us. I was very upset that night the way he was up her butt and ignored me. He says that they have always been friends and no sexual action has come between them. But I'm beginning to wonder for the way she is acting. But my bf has said that he can't be like that w/her cuz shes not his type.


Am I acting like a jealous gf or is there a sign saying that he did do something w/her and lied to me?


Please help! I'm very confused!




Edited 4/8/2008 12:05 pm ET by foxy_brunette32
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 11:43am

Welcome to the board Amanda,


First off, you need to remove your resume and the other attachment from your post.


I will say that your bf's behavior with this other girl is inappropriate. He shouldn't be ignoring you when she is also present. I won't say that he physically cheating, but I do think there is an emotional affair going on between the two of them.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 12:12pm

Should I ask her about their relationship what it was or should I leave it alone. She will be moving away this Saturday to AZ. We are going bowling w/her and her dad this Friday should I ask her then or don't bother. She forgave him but now she hates me. Like this was all my fault. This is such a mess I'm trying really hard not to say anything to my bf but I'm the type its hard to hold my tongue. Thank u for your reply and letting me know to take off the resume.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 12:28pm

Welcome to the board foxy_brunette32,


My guess is even if you ask

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 2:47pm

We broke up cuz he wasn't ready to settle down like I was. Plus, at first he said he wasn't in love w/me. I have no idea why he has came back full force. He wanting all the things that I want now. The love, children, marriage, and the team work in the marriage. He wasn't ready at first but now out of the blue he wants all of it.


Your probably right about her she is on his side and won't tell me nothing. So I guess I will leave it be. He did say to me that when she is gone that he won't talk to her again or see her again. But when I asked her about that she said they would stay in contact. So I don't know what the hell is going down.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 5:41pm
I know you are interested in knowing how to tell if friends are just friends.