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How to win her back...
| Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:17pm |
I have been going out with this woman for 5 years. However before our break up which was about couple of months ago, we were having so troubles. Actually I was making troubles up in order to give myself a little freedom. In the end I ended up cheating on her with a couple of girls, but I did not have sex with anyone else. It was just flirting and kissing. She found out and completely lost it. Although we did speak for a while after the break up as if we were still going out but I guess that was just because it was fresh and also because she probably didn't believe it right away. But as time went by she spoke to me less and less and now she doesn't want to talk to me. I know she still loves me and that she is so hurt and mostly betrayed and feels very played. But the truth is I didn't play her and I love her more than anything in this world. I explained to her that I regret everything and wish it never happened many times. I tell her I love her over and over again, and I even brought her flowers a few times. People give advice that I should give her space and not talk to her but they also say that when the girl breaks up with the man because of other reasons and that the man can't act so desperate. But I find that this is different because I did something wrong and I caused this so all I feel is that I have the responsibility to make things better and excuse myself as much as I can. I don't know if this is healthy or right thing to do to get her back. I want to marry this woman and I know it sounds cliche but I have fallen so much more in love with her after everything that happened, and I have told her that and she freaks out thinking I never loved her in the first place. I want this woman to be my wife and I want o raise a family with this woman. Please help shed some light on this situation. I don't know the steps I have to take to win back her heart and her trust. Thank you and greatly appreciated...

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You're acting like a child more than any of them.
Are you listening to any of the advice here? Just stop what you're doing, let her go. Who cares what her friends say. If she wants to listen to them then she WANTS to listen to them and not you.
As a guy, i'll give you this advice.
Hi precisejay,
That was probably the funniest thing I've read in a long time.
thank you,
LOL - I'd have to pass on the veal....I'm Vegan.
Well, if you have told her all that you said in the email and she has still not wanted to see you, then it's possible that the relationship is just over. It takes two to want to make it work. It may be that what happened is something that she just can't forgive. Even though your feelings have increased for her, she may not feel the same way. What happened may just have been too much for her.
So, if you tell her how you feel, apologize and ask for forgiveness and she doesn't respond or want to resume the relationship, then, it seems, that you simply have to let go. Perhaps you can grow and learn from this situation and that it will help you as you go forward.
Best wishes,
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i am not on this board and chanced upon this .I have just read your title and the sentence that says " I was making troubles up in order to give myself a little freedom." I dont need to read the rest .
YOU ASKED FOR FREEDOM and SHE SET YOU FREE.
Welcome to the board heissick,
Thanks for participating. Feel free to stick around....
thankyou, cl-itwinflame.
francesco,
out of curiosity, i read your entire thread today and i agree with all the 'help' you have got.you got what you deserved and i am happy to know that there are girls who keep strong and dont fall.Did she really call you?
In the 5 years you were together,you failed to make it strong enough to slip.Actually,i am glad you slipped! why? your girl ( ex-girl) saw your reality.no wonder you both didnt get married inspite of being together for 5 years.Maybe ( or, i am sure)she 'knew' you and was giving herself time ,without you knowing it.A very hard pill to swallow ,but guys who slip like this ( drunk and being a macho in the group of friends ) are better left alone.
If you slipped because of friends what guarantee is there you wont again ? And you expect her to just to let it go by giving her $2 flowers ! Does this make any sense?
Men have fought wars for the woman they love.They have written poems for them. And you? You slipped in peer pressure!
Trust is nothing that can be regained in one or two days.It takes years of really hard work.Love is something which needs to be nurtured and taken care of.
if you really love this woman,you will get the strength all by yourself to get her back.You love her more after the break up because she set you free and you missed being loved by her.And now you are not feeling loved, which is the worst of all the feelings.To be loved by someone unconditionally is all we strive for.
Are you sure you know what love means?
Francesco,
I want to thank you for always attaching your update to your first post, it really makes it easy to follow your story.
I just wanted to say, it's not about keeping you two apart. It's about you honoring her words, her decisions, her feelings, which unfortunately, you don't.
Also, most of us speak from experience and hence are giving input based on what we've lived through.
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