How to work things out with my girlfrien

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Registered: 03-24-2007
How to work things out with my girlfrien
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Sat, 03-24-2007 - 10:02pm

Me and my girlfiend broke up today, and she won't even talk to me. What happened I went in the bedroom around 10:00...and fell asleep watching TV...then woke up around 3am...went out and got a drink and had a smoke...went over to the couch and put my arm around her...but it turns out it was her friend on the couch...I went back in the room and she was against the wall...that's why I didn't know she was in bed...well her friend told her I put my hand down her pants and tried touching her...which I didn't...I was embarassed by the whole thing and said I didn't even get up at all last night. she told me she doesn't want to talk to me any more...then she said she'll talk to me when I can admit what I did.

How can make her see that I truly love her and I want us to be together again?

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Registered: 03-24-2007
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 10:23pm
Boy thats a toughie, from a girls POV I would say to tell her honelty about what happened and explain why you lied in the first place, apologize for lying and then make it clear that you'll do whatever it takes to get her back, but make sure that you sit down and have a serious discussion. Listen to her and try not to get angry when she doesnt believe you at first, but tell her the truth as soon as you can and dont stray from it after that.You did lie in the first place and although it was a mistake, the cards arent in your favor so you have to take the brunt of her anger first before she'll come around.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 11:11pm

Welcome to the board ryder.


Since you already lied about not getting up that night, even if you admit to what really happened, she still might not believe you.

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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 10:33am

Call her up and describe the truth of the situation, exactly as you described it here. If she doesn't believe it, that's her problem and there's nothing you can do about it. Unless there is trust in a relationship, unless she can believe what you tell her, as opposed to her friend in this case, there is something missing in the relationship. You can't make her believe you. And there's no reason at all for you to lie and confess to doing something you didn't do. So, stick with the truth of the matter, and it will work out in the best way for all concerned. If she doesn't accept and believe it, then you're better off out of this situation anyway.

Best wishes,