How would you take this? Confused.

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Registered: 10-18-2007
How would you take this? Confused.
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:17pm

Ok, I have posted here before, my last post being that the man that I am "seeing" was not talking to me, he was ignoring me because I gave him crap for making plans with me and then he made plans with his friend and then I hung up on him. Well, he finally called me and we talked things out and he said he still wants to see me and finally he said we were ok. Since then, (about 2 weeks ago) we have seen eachother and things have been going ok. Well, last weekend on Sunday he was working and couldn't leave for lunch (he works in retail) so I offered to bring him lunch. He had already met my daughter many times before and I told him that she was with me and he said that was fine. So,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:25pm

::then she said gee, whatever you want you get, my mom would go anywhere even another state to get whatever you wanted!


When I first read it, my thought was immediate "out of the mouths of babes" - kids have great insight and they just speak the truth and

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:44pm

I don't think his issue with what your daughter said indicates that he doesn't like her.


It appears that the two of you have problems communicating when you are fighting or arguing about something. You both tend to resort to hanging up on each other which isn't a good or nice thing to do.


How long have the two of you been together?

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:48pm
We have been together for 8 months. He doesn't open up to me, never likes to talk things out, he finds it better for him to deal with it by ignoring me for days or a week. I asked him why couldn't we just talk about what is bothering him and it's like he runs. I don't understand why my daughter has come into play in this situation. I think if it were me and his daughter said it then I would be flattered.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:28pm

'He doesn't open up to me, never likes to talk things out, he finds it better for him to deal with it by ignoring me for days or a week.'


Then why are you pursuing this guy? Is he really worth it? WOuld he make a good role model for your daughter?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 7:13pm

That's because YOU want a relationship and he doesn't!!!


Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 8:33pm
You would be flattered if his daughterr said that to you because you're really into him, and you would like to hear that he would do anything for you. He's not that into you. He doesn't like the feeling that comment gave him because it makes him feel obligated and he's just not feelin' it. You have to look at this from his perspective, not your own in order to understand it.