Hurt and Confused
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Hurt and Confused
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:47pm |
Am I nuts? My man and I have been together 5 1/2 years. We really enjoy each other's company, we never fight and talk easily about everything. I can truly be myself with him. We lived together for 3 years until last March. He had been unable to contribute financially due to old debts and was so overwhelmed that he wouldn't do anything to fix it. I was hoping that asking him to move out would be a wake up call. We didn't break up, but we did separate while he has been slowly working out his issues, another one being afraid of a lifetime commitment. A few weeks ago, as we began talking about reuniting under one roof again, I found out he had been soliciting singles sites searching for a "sensitive, beautiful and very sexual lover", before we had even separated. When confronted, he said he was just fantasizing and that he would never try to meet with anyone. Well, the next day I deciphered one e-mail sent in Spanish that proved he did try to meet. When confronted AGAIN, he admitted to meeting someone once just to talk spanish. Obviously, he is not responsible financially, obviously he doesn't want to commit, and obviously I can't trust him. So, my questions is, what is my problem? I know I deserve better, and should end this relationship, but when I see him, I just can't. So, right now we're "friends in limbo" while he patiently waits for my final answer. He wants to forgive and forget and finally make the commitment I had been waiting for, but I'm not sure I want it now.
Edited 9/20/2004 9:30 pm ET ET by aurora243
Edited 9/20/2004 9:56 pm ET ET by aurora243

Carrie
Carrie