Hurt and confused

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Registered: 04-14-2004
Hurt and confused
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:16pm
I have been a guy for about 1 year and 4 months. we broke up last week. It is so difficult. I cry alot I am irritated by everything and I am completely depressed.

I am totally inlove with him and he is great to me. The only issue that I have is that he does not have a job, we don't have the money to go out and do the things that a young couple do.

I work and I am a full time college student, but the money I make is not enough for us to go out. He says that he wants to be with me and do what is best for us, but he is trapped b/c his mom is involved b/c she is on public assistance and they will raise her rent.

I want to be with him but I also live with my mom, and my mom gets upset because she said a relationship should be 50/50 and he is not doing anything with his life.

Has anyone been through this? Should I move on?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:42pm
Hmm, you're working and going to school, busy...but good. As for breaking up because he doesn't have a job, well, was he looking at all, did he care?

Don't settle for a relationship in which you do all the pursuing...he may be just taking what's offered.

Take time to heal. Your mom has your best interests at heart. She wants to see you happy and doesn't want to see you being taken advantage of.

My best to you.


Carrie