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| Thu, 04-22-2004 - 7:49pm |
ok, my husband and i have been together for 4 years and married for a little over two now. this started about 2 months ago when i told my husband that i really wasn't happy with us. i felt like i just needed someone who shared more of my interests/goals. he was heartbroken and begged me to give it another chance. i agreed and just a few weeks later, i realized that it wasn't him, it was me and that i had my own issues to work out inside. after being with him for 4 years, i came to realize that i loved him, accepted him and wanted nothing more than to share a life with him. well, about 2 weeks ago during dinner, he told me that he wasn't happy with how our marriage was going. he says that he just didn't feel the same about me and that he wasn't in love with me. i have to say that i was shocked and naturally very hurt. for a week, he went back and forth on whether or not he wants to try and save this marriage (he won't go to counseling). he has even stated that he may want a divorce or to try and see other people. after being extremely upset for several days, i know that i can't pressure him about his feelings anymore. this only causes us to fight and push each other away, things are already uncomfortable. now, he is asking for time and space, without either of us leaving the house, so he can think about what he wants to do. he says that he still has love for me and would like to find that spark again. i don't want to give up on my marriage, but i'm not sure what to do other than give him his space. please give me advice! thanks.

This might sounds easy but it's hard to do. Give him the space he ask for. Maybe you can go to friend's house for the weekend and let him stay at home.
It happen to me before and I don't think walking away will sove any problem, so I decide to stay around. Me and My live in boyfriend end up fighting more and my tear will not help. We end up breaking up. The day went I leave. He told me he never thinking about breaking up with me, all he want is some space.
So, Give he some time and space. Be kind and understanding. Let he know you are waiting for him and you love him.
Amy