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| Wed, 11-14-2007 - 9:47am |
This is my first time here, so it’s hard to accept and realize that I do need some guidance and advice!
| Wed, 11-14-2007 - 9:47am |
This is my first time here, so it’s hard to accept and realize that I do need some guidance and advice!
It sounds as though you are dealing with a difficult situation - the re-constructed family and all the divisons, politics and liasons that go on within it. Clearly, the entire family communication system is in need of overhauling. You cannot be left out. You and your husband are the primary unit and should present a united front. It is very common for children from former marriages to triage the new parents relationship; questions of loyalty, guilt and possessiveness come into play. I would strongly suggest that you and your husband see a couple's therapist to start. Find out why he feels he has to hide from you and lie; why he needs to leave you out. He may need his own therapy and it might also benefit you to get more clarity and support to speak to a counselor yourself. Resentments can build in a marriage and unless we are aware of what we are truly feeling, there are many ways we get back at our partners, causing all kinds of unwanted behavior from them.
This situation cannot be fully addressed in an email. It is complicated and potentially dangerous for your relationship and new family.
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Welcome to the board jodib2007,
You need to sit down with your husband some time soon and tell him how your are feeling about everything. The lies, lack of communication, and feeling left out. If you continue to let these things go you will start to resent him.
To help you gain your trust back consider marraige counseling or getting counseling with the pastor of your church since your husband is so involved in the church.
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Good Afternoon JodiB,
There's quite a bit going on in your world.