Husband Addicted to Porn
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Husband Addicted to Porn
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 12:22pm |
I've been married to a great guy for a year and 8 months. We've been together a total of 5 years. Ever since the beginning he has always collected porn magazines, Playboy, Penthouse, and High Society. It never bothered me, I enjoy reading them. The problem started about 3 months ago when we got our computer. He stays on the computer from when he gets off of work till it's time to go to bed. And he's always lookin at porn websites. Now that doesn't really bother me, either. What bothers me is that he knows I know what he looks at and he also knows that I would enjoy lookin at the websites with him, but it's like he is tryin to hide it from me. I am not allowed in the room when he is on and I have to talk to him through the door. I have tried several times to let him know that I want to be with him while he looks at this porn and we can enjoy it together. But everytime he does let me in the room to be on the computer with him he goes to totally different websites, like a website to look at trucks, or hunting gear,etc., so I gave him a hint that I wanted to look at the porn websites that he always looks at without me. And he got really mad and defensive and told me that I was aggravating him and to get out, so I did, and decided to leave him alone since he obviously wants to be alone to look at it. Also the problem is, is that ever since he's been enjoying this porn on the computer without me our sex life has dropped. He never wanted to have sex, it's like he had nothing to do with me. So I started to think that maybe he was masturbating to it (I don't understand why he would because he knows I would happily satisfy any sexual needs he has) Why masturbate to porn when you can have the real thing right there in the other room? Him masturbating to porn doesn't bother me, but it bothers me when he does it, and then doesn't have anything to do with me, not even touch me for 3 months, and I'm a very sexual person. He is the ONLY person I have ever been with sexually, he was my first for everything. And I do not masturbate because it does nothing for me. So I was getting very frustrated. Anyway, I had the feeling he was masturbating but there was no way I can catch him red handed. Because if I just walked in he would get pissed, and he can have a temper. So I figured I won't do that. But 1 night, about a week ago, I went outside with the dog, and happened to notice that there was a crack in the blinds in the window and I can see what he was doing, so I decided to watch him to see if my suspecions were right. And sure enough, I seen him masturbating. I was so mad and hurt. But there was nothing I can do. I can't tell him what I seen because he would get mad and ask what I was watchin him for or why. All I want is to be in the room with him, watch the porn website with him, and when he wants to start masturbating, let me do it for him, I'll enjoy it and it would make things a lot better, at least I'll be a part of his life again and it would spice things up. But everytime I try to bring it up he gets mad, and I feel hurt. So I just leave it alone and keep everything bottled up. But I am so frustrated, I don't feel like his wife anymore all I do is cook and clean the house then watch t.v. alone then go to bed. He doesn't talk to me until he wants something to eat or something to be cleaned. It's like that's all he needs me for. All he does is get home from work, lock himself in the computer room, goes to bed at 10, just tells me good night and rolls over to go to sleep. What can I do to get my husband back?, or at least join him?

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