Husband and computer porn

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Husband and computer porn
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 11:46am
My husband spends everyday downloading porn on his computer. He must have hundreds of cd's. It's starting to affect the way I think of him. I'm not sure if it's just me, am I being a prude? Is this normal behavior? I know he obsessed with porn. Otherwise, why would he feel he has to do it every day? Sometimes I think he'd prefer to please himself than me. Other than that we have a great relationship, but I'm starting to wonder if this will destroy our sex lives. It makes me mad when I catch him, but he doesn't stop. I'm not sure how to approach him with this. Any advise?
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Registered: 03-04-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 5:18pm
Hey Kathy, I honestly don't know what to tell you since I'm going through something very similar right now. I do know that I have given my fiance an ultimatum.....if I catch him again, I'm gone. He doesn't just do it on the computer, he calls these women and talks to them while he's doing his thing. I've put up with it for as long as I can. I'm not going to any longer. My suggestion to you is to ask him how would he feel if he caught you doing that without him. My fiance didn't like that idea. Maybe it will work, I hope for your sake it does. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 8:10pm
Has he started to masturbate while watching the porn? I have read about other women who have complained of this problem.

Porn is like a drug, it can be addictive.

When a man starts to pleasure himself instead of allowing his wife to, that is the start of the end of the marriage.

I feel for you and I hope he doesn't spoil his relationship with you by his obsession with porn. How sad that would be.