There is no possible way that everything that is wrong is in the marriage is all your fault. Especially since you are the only way attempting to fix it. If your husband was so unhappy all of those years, he should have said something to you about it. He didn't and this caused him to resent you. The thing is that isn't your fault because you didn't know that anything was wrong.
What do you want to do at this point?
I have to say I don't think things can be fixed right now while your husband is in this state of mind. If that changes and he is willing to try to fix things, there might be some hope.
The best thing for both of you may be to go your separate ways.
It only takes one to drift apart, but two to drift back together, and it sounds like your SO doesn't have a lot of interest in drifting back together.
Perhaps a trial separation, to decide if the two of you really do want to get back together.
"I thought we had a good marriage, however, after the kids came, life got in the way.
Welcome to the board tumblingdice2007,
There is no possible way that everything that is wrong is in the marriage is all your fault. Especially since you are the only way attempting to fix it. If your husband was so unhappy all of those years, he should have said something to you about it. He didn't and this caused him to resent you. The thing is that isn't your fault because you didn't know that anything was wrong.
What do you want to do at this point?
I have to say I don't think things can be fixed right now while your husband is in this state of mind. If that changes and he is willing to try to fix things, there might be some hope.
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