Husband caught cyber-cheating

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Husband caught cyber-cheating
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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 8:17pm
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 10:45am

Welcome to the board mrstlc98,


Is marriage counseling an option? I think it would be a good place to address this issue and work on rebuilding your trust in him.


Since he claims he did this looking for sexual satisfaction, have you agreed to make any changes in the bedroom to address what he felt the original problem was?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:14pm

Welcome to the board mrstlc98,


Sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 5:45pm

Thanks for the reply and thanks to the others who have replied! Yes I brought up getting counseling but he says it's nothing that he feels he needs help with and it has stopped and we are talking about renewing our feelings in our marriage and have all ready taken steps to work on it. He's actually come up with ideas for things to get better so I will give it a try, but if I don't feel it's getting better I will no doubt suggest getting counseling.


Thanks again!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:31pm

At different times in a marrage ( and in a lifetime), some desie for sexual fantasies and exploration come up for many. Fortuntely, he did not actually meet these women in person, or actually sleep with them. Nevertheless, he went much further in his online fantasies than is acceptable and Im gld you confronted him about it and that he took responsibility and promised not to do so again.


Perhaps the best thing to do, rather than dwell on doubt and suspicion, would be to find ways to spice up your relationship. Work on the marriage. Find out what' s missng for him and see if you can both find ways of providing it in the relationship. Plan quality time together. Make sure you have enough alone time and enough intimate communication. Use this event as a way to make things better between he two of you.


Best wishes,