Husband cheating or paranoid?

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Husband cheating or paranoid?
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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 2:25am
My husband went to canada for work about two weeks ago last night I called his room at 9:30 his time no answer left a message. This was peobably me being crazy but I called every hour untill I got a hold of him at about 2:15 I could no answer but he called me back he said he had been sleeping but he sounded drunk to me. I just find it hard to believe that he nor his room mate heard the phone ring that many times. Tonight I only called once at 9:30 did not get an answer either. They are only suppose to go to the bar at the hotel because some of the guys got into some trouble and the hotel bar closes at 11 p.m. My dad siad maybe he was drinking in one of the guys rooms till late but it seems like he would have told me that. Another think that seems strange is the past 2 days when i have talked to him he tells me how badly he wants to be home but he has never said anything like that before he says he is "going to bed early" and that he does not turn the ringer off because he gets a wake up call in the morn. I know that he is the only one that knows if he is misbehaving but aside from my frequent calls am I just paranoid or does it sound funnyto anyone else
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 7:11am

its hard to make a judgement call on just one incident - we just don't have enuf information and background. it SOUNDS as if your husband was goofing around - drinking whatever - and was embarrassed to "admit" it. also - i don't know how *angry* you were sounding, after trying to get hold of him for hours, and when you finally DID get hold of him - you were probably upset....


is this something that is part of a pattern? do you suspect he is cheating? does he lie alot? i think that you need to look at the big picture here.


if you don't have any real suspicions - then you need to stop hounding him like that. you called, you left a message - leave it at that. i don't know what he is doing whereever he is - but sometimes people get involved in a biz trip and don't feel like calling home every minute. it DOESN"T MEAN That he DOESN't love or miss you - it just means that he is busy. its better if next time, before he goes, you tell him that you miss him when he's gone and you would appreciate if he called you every nite "just to say hi".


just my 2 cents