Husband is cheating/Wife is Pregnant

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Registered: 02-08-2004
Husband is cheating/Wife is Pregnant
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Sun, 02-08-2004 - 10:11am
I am 8 weeks pregnant with twins and recently found out that my husband has been having on-line affairs and has actually met some of the women and had sex with them. It appears that this has been going on for awhile. I feel hurt, betrayed, angry, depressed, scared, etc. I'm in shock that he would do this to me. I don't know what to do. I want to confront him but know he's going to deny it when I confront him. Help!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-08-2004 - 12:09pm

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 02-08-2004 - 12:18pm

oh gosh i am sooo sorry, what a nightmare.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 02-08-2004 - 11:02pm
My goodness... I am so so sorry. You can't really move on from here (whether with or without him) until you confront the situation. How did you find out? I will keep you in my prayers. Bless your heart.
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 10:31am

Unfortunatly I know all too well about online affairs that turn out like this.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 5:06pm
I agree with everyone else:

1) post on Betrayed Spouse Support Board

2) print out everything you can as proof, make two copies, hide one and use the other to confront

3) consider (this info is from three different posters from the past):

eBlaster and there is also Spector Soft. Both are very good and cost about $70.00 and are well worth it. They email you snapshots of chats, IM's, emails sent and received, keystrokes typed and websites visited. He won't even know you installed it, it is invisible once installed.


I'd be putting some spyware on the computer for sure. I got mine at matewatcher.com, and it worked perfectly. It is a 5 minute download and 5 minute install, then you can check your computer anytime for what has been done on it. Any novice can use it easily. Just don't get any "free" spyware, it alerts the user, lol.

You can install a net nanny program on your computer. It records everything and is extremely easy to install and use. No one ever know it's there except you. You have a key code and password to log on. There's no icon on the screen or anything. It cost me $99 and I was able to immediately download it within five minutes. I got mine through www.spectorsoft.com

4) consider counseling for yourself - it will give you a safe place to vent, sort out your feelings and figure out what you want to do from here on out.


Carrie

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 8:07am

Also, if you are going to go the spyware route, be VERY carefull about the company you buy it from, remember, if they are sending YOU information about keystrokes and what he is doing they can send that to anyone.