husband has lost all sexual drive
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husband has lost all sexual drive
| Thu, 10-04-2007 - 11:12am |
I have been married for 25 years. It's never been great, but most onlookers would think we have a decent marriage. Truth be told, I think I may have stayed with him for the kids, because I don't like to be alone, the security

Welcome to the board weallswim,
When is the last time he saw a medical doctor - hormones checked, diabetes and heart disease - all of them can effect sex drive.
'He has been verbally abusive and demeaning most of our marriage,'
No wonder you don't want to sleep with him. I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who treated me like this, let alone a marriage. Do you want to save the marriage? Is he willing to go to
If he has tried pills, creams, and etc to help his sex drive and it isn't working than maybe it is something mental. Maybe he is depressed or not happy in the marriage.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
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Have you both gone to fine therapists to work out the issues underlying the lack of sexual fulfillment. Many times sexuality is cut off not for physical, but for emotional reasons. When there is a great deal of negativity, resentment and other feelings brewing, this has a strong affect upon sexuality. Of course you do not want to, nor should you live your entire life without love, warmth, affection and sexual love. If your husband does not want to seek therapy (for starters), go yourself. Talk this over, work out your own feelings and needs vis a vis the marriage. Eventually, he'll have to go as well, and also some good marriage counseling is in order. Just start step by step. It seems as if you could use the support and strength and also insight gained by some good therapy of your own. That will help you and your marriage take the next healthy steps.
Best wishes,
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