Husband ignores me after baby

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Husband ignores me after baby
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 7:36pm
Hi Dr. Brenda,

I have a very different problem, my husband ignores me after our baby. I was searching for some advice on the internet and found that usually its the other way round - husbands/fathers feel abandoned.

Our relationship weakened instead of getting strengthened after our two year struggle through high risk pregnancies, the earlier one resulting in demise. We finally had a beautiful baby but relationship with my husband is non-existent. Presence of my in-laws and parents worsened things and it seems that all my husband wanted was a baby from me. Although we've had ups and downs in our marriage, separation has never been a choice and now it's as though the only thing left in our marriage is our baby.

I really love my baby but feel ignored by my husband. It is not the kind of closeness I dreamt we would have as a family. I feel like he doesn't want anything to do with me now and it's a transactional relationship.

When I mentioned this to him and he denied it completely and says that I prevent him from loving our baby. To top all this he'd like us to have another baby so that our first one gets a sibling. I told him that unless our relationship improves I will not consider it. I am so confused .. any advice appreciated.

AprilMommy

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 10:57am
Get into counseling immediately. And you are right, no more babies.
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Registered: 08-25-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 5:24pm
I completely agree with krazycatt!