Husband Is Insensitive At Times To Our Child's Disability, Taking A toll On Marriage
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|Tue, 09-20-2011 - 12:43am|
My husband and I have a 15 year old son who has ADD and short term memory processing impairment. Because of the short term memory processing he has to have lots of repetition before information gets stored in his long term memory. I have tried over the years to educate my husband about our son's disability but he continues to say and do mean and ignorant things to our son and yesterday he went too far.
I had brought our son a combination lock for his school locker because he kept losing the key to his other lock. I sat down with him to show him how to use it and it took some time, which didn't bother me at all because I knew he had trouble remembering to go from right to left and then right again and also passing the 2nd number in the combination once. We were in his room practicing and we had been at it about 10 minutes my son would do it once and then the next time he could not get it open, so we had to keep doing it over, for me no problem I knew he would get it eventually. Then we hear my husband yell into the room "boy what's wrong with you frenchie could have done it by now!" Frenchie is our dog. Then he proceeds to tell him" if you didn't stay on that ipod so much you would be able to do it." I simply closed my son's bedroom door and continued to work with him and told him to ignore his father and that he was not to worry he would get it and then I wrote out a diagram with arrows that showed him which number was right and what number was left and then it started to click and he got it.
After I'm done with my son after we had practiced for 20 min and I was satisfied that he had remembered the combination and was able to open the lock. His father then proceeds to force him to do it again which made him nervous and he started to mess up and his father threatened to take away his ipod if he could not get it right. I didn't want to start a scene with his father and argue in front of our son. But if he had continued for too long I would have had to intervene. Anyway after about fine minutes my husband was satisfied that he knew it and took credit for it saying, I'm too easy on him. I was really angry last night and decided to cool down before I spoke to my husband about it.
Anyway today after