Husband is leading me down a path I am not sure I want to follow.
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|Mon, 08-06-2012 - 11:27am|
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Loving husband wants to go back to school for the next 17 years while I support us on a graduate assistants salary and I have to give up my dreams of: children, financial security, and a home. Is it wrong to think of divorce? Am I supposed to just grin and bear it? I love him but this doesn't seem right.
So after one huge fight and one open conversation, we have gotten to what I think is a balance. I am still wary, but at this point so many other things are going wrong in my life (parental health problems, my health problems) that I am willing to see how it turns out. Husband would now like to be a mathamatician and go to grad school. Because he can get a job in industry once his bachelor's in math is completed, I am willing to accept this decision for now. It will still take a long time, but at least he says he knows what he wants to do.
He has gotten a semi-permanent set of hours now which should help me pay the rent, which is a step in the right direction. I am still concerned, I can't pretend (on here) that I 'm not, but I've pushed the thought of divorce away for now, and decided to see how this all plays out in the next couple of years. I just don't have the strength to keep fighting, I need the family to pull together to get through these hard times, and we are happy for now.
Thank you for all the advice!