Husband looks at porn but won't have sex
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Husband looks at porn but won't have sex
| Wed, 01-07-2004 - 8:19am |
Hello, my husband and I have been married only 18 months and husband looks at porn and gets off but won't have sex with wife. He said he made a mistake and he is sorry for hurting me. I asked him if thats what he wanted me to do and he said no. I have left him little sexy notes that I know turned him on but instead of haveing sex with me he took a hower by himself and masturbated in the shower then went straight to sleep. I got nothing from him. No hugging, cuddling, kissing, or sex. He has run a cell phone bill up to $956.37 in 900#'s porn calls. One the day after we were married. We didn't even have sex on our weddinng night, but he can call a porn line and get off. How can I try to save my marriage and get the porn completely out of lives? I need help cause this makes me fell worthless as a woman and a wife. I am loosing everything I have worked so hard to get. This is tearing me up inside and tearing my family apart. We can't afford a counselor cause of a limited income so anything else you give me to try and save my marriage will be appericated.
Thanks,
Angel
Thanks,
Angel

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Thanks again,
Angel
hi angela
Hugs.
Thanks for everything.
Angel
Thank you very much,
Angel
I have a similar problem except mines too cheap to pay for porn, hehehe. He has a low libido and it took me 4 1/2 yrs to get him to admit it. He finally agreed to start working on it but gets very sensitive about it when I bring it up. You have to be patient with him because he might not come out of his shell if you arent and it will only prolong your efforts.
We arent even married yet but we fell in love instantly and made our commitments to eachother. However, part of me is thinking he may be lazy and unmotivated. I must figure out a way of dealing with this issue before he takes advantage of my patience.
You have got to figure out a way to get him to stop with the bills. He sounds immature if he is being that irresponsible with your money. Convince him to get a prepaid phone or block the 1 900 #'s. If he acknowledges the problem he should try to create a solution with you.
There are places to get councelling on a sliding scale. Look for a state mental health center near you that offers therepy sessions private or group. It will probably cost you about 10 bucks a session if your income is low. Good luck to you, I know it's stressful but we have to try.
Thanks,
Angel
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