Husband Making it Very difficult.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Husband Making it Very difficult.
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 9:54pm

Hello Everyone,


Making a long story short.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:13pm

You have to leave again. You keep coming back to the same person who makes you miserable. You should still have a restraining order and signed divorce papers.

The only one who can give yourself the willpower to stay away from him is you. None of us here can fix your relationship. You don't even have a relationship anymore. What you have is beyond repair. Now you can either continue to dwell in denial and waste your own time trying to put together a puzzle made up of all the wrong pieces, or you can make the commitment to making a better life for yourself TODAY.

Your squabbles over money are nothing. A real woman learns how to stand on her own two feet. Be a strong woman and a role model for your children, do the RIGHT thing for your family and leave for good. Divorce doesn't "kill" anyone, stop being so dramatic. They're not losing a father. When two people aren't good for one another, it ruins a family. Your kids will see a man who takes advantage of a woman who allows herself to be taken advantage of. You should realize that children emulate their parents' marriage. They will think that this is normal.

You can find work anywhere. Work retail if you have to. But you're going to need to step off this carpet before it gets swept out from under your feet. I feel sorry for you, but you really have to do the right thing for yourself no matter how hard it is.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 11:48pm

Welcome to the board madison1966,


You are in an abusive relationship. He will always blame you to keep you in line, to control you, to isolate you.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:22am

Welcome to the board madison1966,


I know that my dad's 3rd wife was able to get a divorce from him without him signing the divorce papers. I think it took about 6 months, but the court did grant the divorce. Talk to your lawyer and see if that is possible in your state.


I know you said you were worried about money, but it sounds like you could alimony and child support.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:47am

Your husband is a loser and your children deserve better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 3:57pm

Obviously, we're only getting one side of the story here, but a couple thoughts:


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