Husband Roving eye

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Registered: 02-07-2004
Husband Roving eye
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Sat, 02-07-2004 - 6:33pm
Like many people my husband has a roving eye but the problem is that he is 'continually' looking at other women. Even when we recently went on what was supposed to be a romantic holiday to Fiji he spent the whole time mesmerised by a young woman staying nearby. Every time we were even in her vicinity he was in another world. Of course this has happened on many many other occasions too, for it to come to this point. I tried to talk to him about this he finally told me that he feel compelled to leer at these women because they are young, thin and beautiful and I am over weight, have cellulite and stretch marks and saggy boobs among other things . I can afford to lose some weight and am currently doing so but of course there are some things that he has complained about that cannot be changed. Im 33 yrs, about 20 pounds over my healthy weight and have been told I am pretty (although not by hubby hehe)We have four children (three from my previous marriage and 1 together). I feel hurt and unsure whether I being overly sensitive. Anyway hope some of you will have some ideas for me . Thanks for helping....
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 02-08-2004 - 2:21am


WHAT?!?!?! sorry, your husband is a rude, boorish, inconsiderate, immature, brat. what do you mean "Like many people" --- no way, sorry, men who respect their spouses/SOs do not ogle/leer/stare at other women like that. yes - look. but no - look till your jaw drops to the floor and eyes pop out.


and for him to tell you that its somehow YOUR fault???? for him to "list" your "supposed" problem areas? hello? 20 pounds overweight is not a big deal, but even if you were 100 pounds overweight -that is just so MEAN. what a guy you have.


sweetie - this is not about YOUR excess weight. it is not about YOUR sagging boobs or whatever. it is about HIS total immaturity and lack of respect towards YOU. the only thing i can suggest is for both of you to head STRAIGHT to couple's therapy and see if you can work this out before your self esteem is gone forever.


geez...