Husband sends Ex flowers

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Husband sends Ex flowers
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Sat, 05-08-2004 - 11:05am
My husband insists on staying friends with his Ex much to my dismay.

I have never met her but am jealous that they talk on the phone.

We have been married for a year.

When I confront him about why he needs to stay in touch with her

he says that they are just friends and he likes to stay friends

with everyone.

Also I just found out he sent her flowers (lilies) on her birthday

without telling me about it. Should I confront him about this?

Am I over-reacting? I just hate the thought of him sending her flowers

without my knowledge and am hurt and confused.

Your advice will be much aprpeciated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-08-2004 - 1:34pm
You are not overreacting. The thing that bothers me the most about the situation is the fact that you've never met her. Have you ever spoken to her? About the flowers, it wouldn't bother me if they were a gift from the BOTH of you, but for him to send flowers to a woman who is not his wife is highly inappropriate IMO.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 05-08-2004 - 2:12pm
I agree with reply #2 - you are not overreacting.

Red Flags: You've never met her. She's never met you.

He's continuing a close, intimate, emotional, sharing relationship with another woman. NOT GOOD.

Let a therapist tell him, or let Dr Laura tell him - 10 things couples do to mess up their relatinship (Dr Laura's book).

He's emotionally invested in his ex.


Carrie