Husband vs. Friend
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Husband vs. Friend
| Wed, 03-17-2004 - 2:32pm |
This is sort of hard to explain so please bare with me. In 2003 I did a lot of soul searching I guess you could say. My husband of four years decided to join the military in June of 2003. During the time apart I did a lot of thinking. The first year that we were married things were going great. Then the next two years were pretty bad. We fought a lot because I felt like I was being taken advantage of. He hardly ever did anything with me and went out with the guys alot. He went to school while I worked. Well at least he said he went to school. But all he ever did was go home and play games on the computer. So of course he flunked out of college. We got married when he was 19 and I was 20. So I chalked up a lot of our problems to the fact that we were both pretty young and he still had things that he wanted to do that didn't involve me. While he was in Basic training for the Army, I met someone through a friend. The three of us would hang out and do things together that I don't get to do with my husband because he doesn't like to do those type of things. And during this time, I really connected with my new guy friend. I found that we had a lot in common and we talked about everything and anything. We talked a lot about my husband and how I felt about our relationship. And it made me realize that I wasn't happy and haven't been for a while. My husband also did some soul searching and realized how much I meant to him and how he took advantage of me. I will be joining him here soon at his first duty station. However, as much as I would like to give our marriage another try, I feel that I gained and lost a few things. One, I don't love my husband the way I used to. I have told him this but he feels that we can make things work between us if we give "us" another try. I am willing to try but I feel that I have connected with someone else and I am afraid that because of that I won't put my all into trying to make things work between my husband and I. Any advice?
