Husband wants open relationship....

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Husband wants open relationship....
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Wed, 07-30-2008 - 11:14am

Well, it's not really that he wants an open relationship...it's more that he gets turned on by the thought of me being with other men (and vice versa - him with other women).


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 12:52pm

Welcome to the board dncingrl,


Fantasy is great as long as it stays in 'Fantasyland' if it doesn't and crosses over to reality, it changes everything.


Since he's not hearing you, stop discussing it.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 1:38pm
I agree with what Carrie wrote and wanted to add maybe you should stop using the talk in the bedroom until he can quit pressuring you to do it in real life.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 5:24pm

Like the other posters said...if you stop talking about it..then maybe he'll get it through his head that your feelings have changed. This is only if he cannot separate fantasy from real life and wants to make it real life.


If I had a husband who wanted to share me like that I would interpret that to mean he doesnt love me.

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 10:49pm

Thank you all for the support and great advice.


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Registered: 06-14-2008
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 3:59pm
You don't have to do anything you are uncomfortable with.
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Registered: 03-25-2005
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 7:05pm

<<<<What COULD happen even if you did, though, is then he does a 180 and becomes insanely jealous or resentful.>>>>>


I think that is exactly what is holding me back...even though it did turn me on quite


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