Husband went behind my back

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Husband went behind my back
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 12:51pm

Recently I posted about how my husband was interested in an open/swinging relationship, or at least engaging another man in our love life.


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Registered: 05-11-2003
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 1:50pm
WOW. You are very clear to me. You made a mistake, it was horrible and you want to move on. Now your husband is coercing you into a voyeristic, swinging encounter which is all about satisfying his anger, needs and fantasies and nothing about what's healthy for you, him or your relationship.
Have you two ever been in couple counseling? Maybe it's time to consider that. He's very angry. He's got to find some way to bring that down without sullying your relationship, bringing you down.
I'm just putting this out there...a friend of mine participated in such a menage a trois and he told me two things about it. It was logistically funny and during the whole time he kept thinking about how much this guy could not possibly love his girlfriend to want to share her that way.
Stick to what's good for you. You in no way 'owe' him this. You owe it to yourself to engage in healthy activities, OK?
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 2:52pm
He is sure trying to take control of this relationship and situation, isnt he?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 4:30pm

He's calling you a hypocrite to manipulate into doing what he wants.