husbands friend had an affair

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Registered: 08-16-2008
husbands friend had an affair
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Sat, 08-16-2008 - 2:21pm
Should I be upset that my husband knew his friend was having an affair, which ended in divorce, but didn't tell me about it.
just hangin on!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 08-16-2008 - 3:39pm

Welcome to the board justhanginon,


The better question is:

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 08-16-2008 - 6:24pm

If a friend told me she was having an affair and asked me to keep it a secret, I would keep it from my husband.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 8:16pm
I think you should mind your own business - sorry. This affair had nothing to do with your relationship, it was told in confidence between he and a friend... And if you had told anyone, it would have ultimately been your husband's responsibility. He probably would lose his friend if this happened. I don't know that this man is remorseful, or still looking to cheat, and honestly neither do you. If he is valuable as a friend to your husband then that's something that needs to be respected, even if you don't want to be around him yourself.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:36am
One thing I know is that that there is a brotherhood amongst men about it not "being cool to rat out a buddy" when it comes to what there doing with other women behind there wives back. They would lose a friends and become the bad guy