husbands porn addiction

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2007
husbands porn addiction
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 2:03pm
This isn't news to me, but it does seem to be increasing. I feel so angry right now. And hurt. My husband of 30 years, seems to have this secret side of him. I know he looks at porn ALOT. When I ask him about it he says it gets sent to his email. Well, it gets sent to my email too, but the difference is I don't open them. Well today I noticed on the computer that he went to a site called married women who cheat, I mean really. It did not appear on our desktop all by itself.
A little background, our sex life is not the best right now. And this is part of the reason. How the heck can I feel turned on when it bothers me so much that he has to be involved in porn. It is so stupid to me. When I ask him he tells me he isn't doing it and when I tell him how much it hurts me would he please stop, he tells me I don't know what I am talking about. He is very computer savy so he knows how to erase the evidence. Sometimes I can go for months thinking he has stopped and then I will see that he really hasn't. He even has left a site up on the task bar. Tomarrow we are supposed to go on a trip together and I don't even want to look at him. He knows how I feel about porn and yet he continues to do it. I feel violated and disgusted. What am I supposed to do? How do I act like this isn't a problem between us. Remember I can't say anything to him because he will turn it around and make this look like it is my fault.
Thanks for any advice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 11:11am

Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree then.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 11:24am
Well at least I have an informed opinion.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 11:34am

Hi everyone,


I can see this is getting heated.... we can agree to disagree.


To the OP (original poster), you might find a lot of help here on this other iVillage board:


Families Damaged by Pornography


With a whole board dedicated to it, clearly, in some relationships it's a big problem.






iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 11:38am

No, you are right - people don't have to accept porn.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 11:52am

You are absolutely right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:25pm

You don't have to accept porn, no.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:53pm

It's an issue for the OP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:59pm

that's absolutely true.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 3:03pm
She has told him it hurts her - he told her she doesn't know she's talking about.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 1:27am
So do all married men have sex with their wives? Since porn addicts do this less and less until they aren't having sex with their wives at all, these would all be erroneous statements.

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