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| Wed, 11-14-2007 - 2:03pm |
This isn't news to me, but it does seem to be increasing. I feel so angry right now. And hurt. My husband of 30 years, seems to have this secret side of him. I know he looks at porn ALOT. When I ask him about it he says it gets sent to his email. Well, it gets sent to my email too, but the difference is I don't open them. Well today I noticed on the computer that he went to a site called married women who cheat, I mean really. It did not appear on our desktop all by itself.
A little background, our sex life is not the best right now. And this is part of the reason. How the heck can I feel turned on when it bothers me so much that he has to be involved in porn. It is so stupid to me. When I ask him he tells me he isn't doing it and when I tell him how much it hurts me would he please stop, he tells me I don't know what I am talking about. He is very computer savy so he knows how to erase the evidence. Sometimes I can go for months thinking he has stopped and then I will see that he really hasn't. He even has left a site up on the task bar. Tomarrow we are supposed to go on a trip together and I don't even want to look at him. He knows how I feel about porn and yet he continues to do it. I feel violated and disgusted. What am I supposed to do? How do I act like this isn't a problem between us. Remember I can't say anything to him because he will turn it around and make this look like it is my fault.
Thanks for any advice.
A little background, our sex life is not the best right now. And this is part of the reason. How the heck can I feel turned on when it bothers me so much that he has to be involved in porn. It is so stupid to me. When I ask him he tells me he isn't doing it and when I tell him how much it hurts me would he please stop, he tells me I don't know what I am talking about. He is very computer savy so he knows how to erase the evidence. Sometimes I can go for months thinking he has stopped and then I will see that he really hasn't. He even has left a site up on the task bar. Tomarrow we are supposed to go on a trip together and I don't even want to look at him. He knows how I feel about porn and yet he continues to do it. I feel violated and disgusted. What am I supposed to do? How do I act like this isn't a problem between us. Remember I can't say anything to him because he will turn it around and make this look like it is my fault.
Thanks for any advice.

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Ok you read studies. But my man looks at porn, sometimes we look together, and he is very loving and respectful of me, and generous and takes care of me in every way-emotionally, sexually, financially. He is my best friend and we are very close and he doesn't have to hide from me, if I don't feel like looking at porn then he sits next to me with the lapton while I watch tv or nap.It's very possible to have a healthy happy loving relationship and accept your man as he is-porn and all.
Hi kitttykatttt,
The difference is that you guy isn't hiding it from you. The original poster, her guy is hiding it.
Everyone has a different gauge for what's acceptable behavior in a relationship, what they can live with and what they consider to be dealbreakers......
I hope she finds the help she's looking for.
Just because it's not a problem for you in your relationship doesn't mean it has to be acceptable to anyone else.
As for your "Why" question, you presumed to tell me that I was in for a dysfunctional relationship on some level if
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