I am being a self-saboteur! Please help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2008
I am being a self-saboteur! Please help!
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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 9:03pm

Hi,


I am new here, nice to meet you. I've been on a few other ivillage message boards, but I think I am at the point where I need help here.


Here's my background: was M for 9 years. Major trauma happened in my M: STBX is a verbal and emotional abuser who used lots of manipulation, lost our money, lost our house, etc etc. We are still in a living together situation because of the lack of funds, although I am leaving 3 weeks from today (it's scheduled, so hopefully nothing changes). We emotionally parted ways last March.


Being in the house with him is very unpleasant, and he is still very unkind. I think it's causing me to ruin

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 11:16pm
You need to show him that you "do" appreciate his efforts and give him
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 8:23am

Well, it sounds like maybe you were right when you told the BF that you weren't yet ready for a new relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 3:24pm

Welcome to the board learningasigo2008,


This new guy cannot be the source of all your happiness, security, entertainment.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 6:36pm

Thanks for the responses!