I am being a self-saboteur! Please help!
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I am being a self-saboteur! Please help!
| Sat, 11-01-2008 - 9:03pm |
Hi,
I am new here, nice to meet you. I've been on a few other ivillage message boards, but I think I am at the point where I need help here.
Here's my background: was M for 9 years. Major trauma happened in my M: STBX is a verbal and emotional abuser who used lots of manipulation, lost our money, lost our house, etc etc. We are still in a living together situation because of the lack of funds, although I am leaving 3 weeks from today (it's scheduled, so hopefully nothing changes). We emotionally parted ways last March.
Being in the house with him is very unpleasant, and he is still very unkind. I think it's causing me to ruin

Well, it sounds like maybe you were right when you told the BF that you weren't yet ready for a new relationship.
Welcome to the board learningasigo2008,
This new guy cannot be the source of all your happiness, security, entertainment.
Thanks for the responses!