I am confussed about my relationship
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| Sat, 08-18-2007 - 8:42pm |
Ok here it goes, I have been with my boy friend for one year now , I got pregnent 2 months after us dating and my daughters and I just moved in to his house with our baby.
Well the problem is that he has not wanted to have sex with me since I have been 7 months pregent and that is because he said he was grossed out by the fact of my weight gain , no touching and hardly no kissing or hugging. We had sex 2 weeks ago and that has been it for our sex life out of 5 months. I try to come on to him and he always gives me some lame excuse like he is tired or his back is sore or something or sometimes he is just a plan ass about it and tells me NO and that is that. I did ask him why and he just says becase.
Some how in My mind I think maybe he is cheating on me ? But then I don't feel like he is then I ask myself does he really love me or are we together for the baby ? I know he said before he wanted us to live together cause I have his child, I just don't get it? I feel that if you love someone you would show it. Someone please help me , I don't know what to think !!!!!!
thanks Michelle

**I know he said before he wanted us to live together cause I have his child, I just don't get it? **
I understand it hurts, and I'm sorry you are going through this but....
Read back over his statement to you, no where does it say he is in love with you. He wants you to live together because you have his child. You got pregnant 2 months after dating him, that is not time to get to know someone and know if you love them, it takes a lot longer than two months. You need to decide if you want to stay with someone, and have your children in a situation like this. It doesn't sound healthy for any of you. Good luck.
I'm sorry to have to agree. Having children with someone you don't know loves you is really not smart. I am not sure how your other children came to be but I hope not the same way. I'm not sure if this relationship in particular is going to work out for you but I sincerely hope that you choose to take things slower, take sex more seriously, and use birth control. I'm not trying to lecture you but you should take a skeptical look at what you're doing.
I will say one thing about him.. The right man for you will love you and stand by you when you're pregnant, vulnerable and needing affection more than ever. That's not this guy, sorry.