I think I would kill my husband if did that to me, so I can understand you being upset. This is going to take you a while to get over. My suggestion is marriage counseling. Do you think he would be willing to go with you?
This is semi-typical for my dh, he is a very cautious person, he doesn't like to not have every detail in life planned out. The hardest part about this whole this is when I have tried to talk to him; he either falls asleep or starts joking around about another subject. I don't think he begins to understand why I am so upset. He sees it as having a baby or not having a baby. I see it as much more than that. As for counseling, I asked him about it and he got all freaked out. He said he and his XW went and it didn't work. He sees counseling as the beginning of a divorce. I just want him to hear me!
On the surface, we have a perfect relationship, mostly because I keep my mouth shut and don't try to make waves. When we do fight, he tells me I'm out of control. He fights very dirty, pointing out all the things that I do wrong. I'm done fighting, I'm to the point were I bight my lip so much it bleeds. LOL.
What an awful thing to do to you. I'm so sorry. I don't really have any advice because I can't imagine someone doing that to me, but I really sympathize and want you to know that of course we all support you here!
I don't think men realize what an incredibly painful, trying, emotional, and difficult experience pregnancy and childbirth is. He can say "ok let's have a baby" and then nine months later he's magically a father. That "magic" is YOUR hard work, emotionally and physically, and for him to be so insensitive to what you must go through from the decision to have a child until birth (and beyond) is not a great trait in a man.
I don't blame you for being angry. If I were in your shoes his stuff would be thrown out on the doorstep.
Like the other posters, I'm appalled that your husband would treat you and your joint plan to have a child so cavalierly, but I am also stunned to learn that he spent your maternity-leave money on a sportscar.
Welcome to the board happywife12007,
I think I would kill my husband if did that to me, so I can understand you being upset. This is going to take you a while to get over. My suggestion is marriage counseling. Do you think he would be willing to go with you?
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Welcome to the board happywife12007,
WOW.
This is semi-typical for my dh, he is a very cautious person, he doesn't like to not have every detail in life planned out. The hardest part about this whole this is when I have tried to talk to him; he either falls asleep or starts joking around about another subject. I don't think he begins to understand why I am so upset. He sees it as having a baby or not having a baby. I see it as much more than that. As for counseling, I asked him about it and he got all freaked out. He said he and his XW went and it didn't work. He sees counseling as the beginning of a divorce. I just want him to hear me!
On the surface, we have a perfect relationship, mostly because I keep my mouth shut and don't try to make waves. When we do fight, he tells me I'm out of control. He fights very dirty, pointing out all the things that I do wrong. I'm done fighting, I'm to the point were I bight my lip so much it bleeds. LOL.
What an awful thing to do to you. I'm so sorry. I don't really have any advice because I can't imagine someone doing that to me, but I really sympathize and want you to know that of course we all support you here!
I don't think men realize what an incredibly painful, trying, emotional, and difficult experience pregnancy and childbirth is. He can say "ok let's have a baby" and then nine months later he's magically a father. That "magic" is YOUR hard work, emotionally and physically, and for him to be so insensitive to what you must go through from the decision to have a child until birth (and beyond) is not a great trait in a man.
I don't blame you for being angry. If I were in your shoes his stuff would be thrown out on the doorstep.