I am!!! Such a poor thing.......

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Registered: 03-09-2007
I am!!! Such a poor thing.......
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Fri, 03-09-2007 - 12:12am

hi to all,

here goes my story with my fiancee, he used to be very attentive and considerate but nowadays he gets mad easily for small things like waking him up to work in the morning, he'll scold me vulgar word. Than while in a shopping center i told him that my foot's painful can we go, than i walked towards the outside of the shop he rushed out pointed the middle finger and told me that im soo selfish, i can shop around but he cant. Than he walked out of the shopping center to home very fast. As my leg was hurting i couldn't catch up, so afetr some time he was out of sight, i ran to chase after him and in order to stop him a little, i grabbed he's bag, you know wad he did!!! .... he pushed me so hard i fell on the floor. it was embarrassing... Pls tell me wad to do... I love him and do not wish for it to end like this.

Lolli

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 1:00am

Hi lollipop_gal,


He's pretty explosive - pushing you

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 11:43am

He's being verbally and emotionally and physically abusive. To call you vulgar words is verbally abusive. To flip you the bird and called you selfish is abusive and inconsiderate of him, especially considering you were in pain.

For him to push you - that would be the final straw for me. Abusers don't get better. They get worse - especially once you marry them. Do you want to marry and be in an abusive relationship with this guy?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 3:24pm

Get away from him as fast as you can. This guy is abusive. He's out of control and harmful to you. It's terrible that you do not realize this. There is no reason why you should stay and receive this kind of abuse. Go online to the forums for abused women and learn what abusive relationships are about. If he pushed you down and you fell, it's already gone over the line.


Get yourself to a therapist. Get to a support group for abused women and discover what it is in you that is not aware of what's going on, and that is willing to stay there at all. You need help. Get it now.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 3:30pm
Hello, Girl! He is being verbally and physically abusive! What are you THINKING staying with him. He will only get worse. You need to get out yesterday. You can do better.