You may not like the answer, but I think you need to distance yourself from BOTH men and be by yourself. You really need to figure out who you are before you can form a relationship with either man.
It sounds like you are having doubts about losing your marriage. I truly believe that if you are going to divorce you have to try everything possible to make it work. Then, if it doesn't you can walk away knowing that you did all to save it. You mentioned counseling. I think you should look into going back to work on yourself and then perhaps marriage counseling. I don't think jumping back into a relationship with your husband will be beneficial unless you get to the root of your problems.
The new guy may seem attractive but he may be giving you the attention you were missing from your husband. Its hard to know if he's the one when you've got your husband in the picture too. You stand to hurt both men which is unfair to them. You are stringing both of them along and that's selfish. How can you start a solid relationship with either man with that kind of a foundation?
Leave the new guy. Work on yourself and gain perspective of the situation.
You may not like the answer, but I think you need to distance yourself from BOTH men and be by yourself. You really need to figure out who you are before you can form a relationship with either man.
It sounds like you are having doubts about losing your marriage. I truly believe that if you are going to divorce you have to try everything possible to make it work. Then, if it doesn't you can walk away knowing that you did all to save it. You mentioned counseling. I think you should look into going back to work on yourself and then perhaps marriage counseling. I don't think jumping back into a relationship with your husband will be beneficial unless you get to the root of your problems.
The new guy may seem attractive but he may be giving you the attention you were missing from your husband. Its hard to know if he's the one when you've got your husband in the picture too. You stand to hurt both men which is unfair to them. You are stringing both of them along and that's selfish. How can you start a solid relationship with either man with that kind of a foundation?
Leave the new guy. Work on yourself and gain perspective of the situation.
Good luck
Welcome to the board trigger2007,
I agree with the previous post about taking time for just you.
As your husband realizes how much you did for him and is now 'oh so in love with you again' it doesn't mean his changes are permanent.